How We Live Is How We Die by Pema Chödrön

“The Dharma tells us that all our experiences of discomfort, anxiety, being disturbed, and being bothered are rooted in our kleshas. This Sanskrit term means ‘destructive emotions’ or ‘pain-causing emotions.’ The three main kleshas are craving, aggression, and ignorance. The first two don’t require much explanation. ‘Craving’ becomes a destructive emotion when it gets tot he point of being an addiction or an obsession. I was once given some Asian candy whose brand name was ‘Baby Want-Want.’ That sums up craving quite nicely, I think. We think something will bring us pleasure or comfort, so we become obsessed with having it or keeping it. ‘Aggression’ is the opposite: we want to get rid of something that we perceive as a threat to our well-being. ‘Ignorance’ as a destructive emotion is a little harder to understand. It’s a dull, indifferent state of mind that actually contains a deep level of pain. It can express itself as being out of touch, being mentally lethargic, not caring what we’re feeling or what others are going through. When this state of mind dominates us, it can turn into depression.”

-Pema Chödrön, 2022